I used to be a negative person. I blamed everyone and everything for my lot in life. There wasn’t a day that went by that I didn’t have some sort of negative thought cross my mind. I wasn’t a non-functioning totally depressed person, in fact I was highly functioning. But I wasn’t happy. I was like a lot of people these days; I was asleep at the wheel. I didn’t realize that I was feeding on the negativity that I saw every day and recycling it back to the people around me, creating a one legged ass kicking contest of negativity. The relationship I was in was negative, a lot of my friend’s online were negative, and my coworkers were negative. I would walk around thinking why is everyone so negative, never realizing it was me creating that negativity in my surroundings. I was a totally depressed person.
It seems today so many people are expressing themselves with negative thought. If you’re not seeing someone talking about murder and mayhem on the news, then you are reading a friends post on Facebook as they say FML over a messed up cup of coffee. I have to ask myself, do these people just like to be negative energy? I have to say I don’t think so. I would say that most people today don’t know how to express themselves in a positive way. They don’t have the tools to live a life they want, never realizing that everything they say, do, and are exposed to have a direct effect on their quality of life.
Things did not turn around for me until I decided to stop listening to the negativity. I realized I could be happy. All I had to do was choose to be. Being happy is a pretty simple thing. You just choose to be happy. Just as you choose negativity in your life, you can choose positivity. Have you ever been around a truly happy person? The energy that that person puts off makes you happy. The same is true for a person who exudes negativity. We have all been exposed to a family member, coworker, or Facebook friend’s post that is filled with negativity. How do they make you feel? Do you want to be around them for long lengths of time? I would think not. Now look at that person with all the negative thought. Are they a productive person? Are they happy? Sometimes you don’t even know that person is bringing you down until you take a step back and think about what they are saying. You have to fortify yourself against these people and there thought and not be caught up in their negative energy. Remember you control what goes into your subconscious. Words and actions produce very powerful emotions. If you learn to control your own emotions, other peoples won’t make a difference in your happiness.
Since I choose to be happy, I have since gotten out of the bad relationship, and moved on to a happy one. I have published a short book on Amazon (Inspiration for the struggling writer) which helps not just writers, but anyone get over fear and negative thought. My life is full of new and wonderful things because I am not bogged down with negative energy. Even when things are not going the way I planned I am still happy. Do have things in my life that are negative? Yes! But now I know how to deal with them. All I do is choose happiness
There were many resources and books I read that hit home for me. Here is a list of some of them.
Inspiration for the struggling writer: Of course I have to put my own book in the list. It is something I am proud of, and I hope it can be helpful to you.
The power of your subconscious mind: Your subconscious doesn’t know what is real or not. What ever you put into it will come to pass. Put good stuff in it.
Don’t sweat the small stuff: Every problem in life becomes small over time.
Unlimited power: You have a store house of power in you. Learn how to use it.